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Learn To Say No
An Act of Self Care
Life has a way of socializing us to be people-pleasers. We say yes to things that we really don’t want to say yes to. If the boss asks you to take on more work, you say yes, because it shows you are taking initiative. When your friend asks you to go out aft a long work week, you say yes, because friends are hard to come by. Or, maybe your sibling asks you to borrow money, you say yes, because family comes first. There are so many scenarios in which we are put into positions to say yes, when we really need to say no for our own well-being.
Feeling obligated to give people what they want at all times is exhausting. It can make you miserable. Using the example of taking on extra tasks at work. If you’re on salary, that just means you’re working longer hours, doing more and not making more money. And, you’re putting more stress on yourself to reach deadlines while still creating quality work. If you’re an hourly employee, just don’t take on extra work. It’s usually not worth the pay and the pain of that extra $10hr-$20hr.
We need to know our limits. As humans we all have a limit that we should not exceed. I personally tend to not take my own advice, biting off more that I can chew and choking later. But one thing I have learned is that it is okay to say no. I want to help you accomplish this with confidence and while feeling literally…
